TIPS FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

 

TIPS FOR HEALTHU RELATIONSHIP

Even if you’ve experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or have struggled before to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can find ways to stay connected, find fulfillment, and enjoy lasting happiness. All romantic relationships go through ups and downs and they all take work, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner. But whether your relationship is just starting out or you’ve been together for years, there are steps you can take to build a healthy relationship.

 

Part of what defines a healthy relationship is sharing a common goal for exactly what you want the relationship to be and where you want it to go. Knowing these basic principles can help keep your relationship meaningful, fulfilling and exciting whatever goals you’re working towards or challenges you’re facing together. Every relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. And that’s something you’ll only know by talking deeply and honestly with your partner. However, there are also some characteristics that most healthy relationships have in common.

 

You each make the other feel loved and emotionally fulfilled. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without the partners truly relating to each other emotionally. While the union may seem stable on the surface, a lack of ongoing involvement and emotional connection serves only to add distance between two people. You maintain a meaningful emotional connection with each other. There’s a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly gets you.

 

In fact, expecting too much from your partner can put unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Despite the claims of romantic fiction or movies, no one person can meet all of your needs. You need to feel safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or insisting on being right.

 

You keep outside relationships and interests alive. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You’re not afraid of (respectful) disagreement. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. To stimulate and enrich your romantic relationship, it’s important to sustain your own identity outside of the relationship, preserve connections with family and friends, and maintain your hobbies and interests.

Difference between Falling in love and Staying in love

     It’s staying in love—or preserving that “falling in love” experience—that requires commitment and work. For most people, falling in love usually seems to just happen. By taking steps now to preserve or rekindle your falling in love experience, you can build a meaningful relationship that lasts—even for a lifetime. Given its rewards, though, it’s well worth the effort. A healthy, secure romantic relationship can serve as an ongoing source of support and happiness in your life, through good times and bad, strengthening all aspects of your wellbeing.

 

As long as the health of a romantic relationship remains important to you, it is going to require your attention and effort. Once the problems have been resolved they often switch their attention back to their careers, kids, or other interests. And identifying and fixing a small problem in your relationship now can often help prevent it from growing into a much larger one down road. Many couples focus on their relationship only when there are specific, unavoidable problems to overcome. However, romantic relationships require ongoing attention and commitment for love to flourish.

TIP 1   SPEND MORE TIME IN FACE TO FACE CONVERSATION

 

If you continue to look and listen in the same attentive ways, you can sustain the falling in love experience over the long term. Everything seemed new and exciting, and you likely spent hours just chatting together or coming up with new, exciting things to try. You fall in love looking at and listening to each other. You probably have fond memories of when you were first dating your loved one. However, as time goes by, the demands of work, family, other obligations, and the need we all have for time to ourselves can make it harder to find time together.

 

TIP 2   ALWAYS KEEP CONNECTED

 

The emotional cues you both need to feel loved can only be conveyed in person, so no matter how busy life gets, it’s important to carve out time to spend together. While digital communication is great for some purposes, it doesn’t positively impact your brain and nervous system in the same way as face-to-face communication. And you’ll become more distanced or disconnected as a couple. Many couples find that the face-to-face contact of their early dating days is gradually replaced by hurried texts, emails, and instant messages. Sending a text or a voice message to your partner saying “I love you” is great, but if you rarely look at them or have the time to sit down together, they’ll still feel you don’t understand or appreciate them.

 

It may sound simplistic, but as long as you are communicating, you can usually work through whatever problems you’re facing. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out the disconnect. Good communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. When you experience a positive emotional connection with your partner, you feel safe and happy.

 

Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, affectionate contact for brain development. And the benefits don’t end in childhood. Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Frequent, affectionate touch—holding hands, hugging, kissing—is equally important. Affectionate contact boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. While sex is often a cornerstone of a committed relationship, it shouldn’t be the only method of physical intimacy.

 

TIP 3    GIVE AND TAKE

 

Healthy relationships are built on compromise. If you expect to get what you want 100% of the time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. However, it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange.